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Just like in offline dating, it takes time, caution, and hard work to find your match online. Here is our 101 of how to make your online dating effective and safe.
In online dating, your profile makes the first impression, literally. It leaves a potential match wanting to know you more or move on to the next profile. The following tips will help your profile stand out and be more effective.
Write clearly who you are and what you are looking for. Do some soul searching,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], if necessary. A vague profile attracts the wrong people, which can turn your dating experience disappointing and time-consuming.
Stay positive. Don't dwell on the negatives, previous relationships. Everyone has had bad relationships, but you don't need to talk about them in your profile. This will send a message to potential dates that you are a negative person and that you don't have a history of healthy relationships. What if you HAVE TO mention certain negative life experience? End it with a positive note, for example, what you've learned or how you've grown out of it to be a better person. Keep in mind, just like you, everybody else is looking for someone who can contribute something positive to a relationship.
Be honest. Online dating makes misrepresentations much easier. However, people who succeed in online dating are those who are honest and confident about themselves. And their confidence attracts potential partners. A lie may help you get a first date quickly but once the lie is exposed, you are left with nothing. So, if you have flaws, don't lie. Improve yourself, or for the sake of writing a dating profile,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], describe your strengths, which leads to our next point…
Sell yourself, truthfully. This is probably the most important, but also the most ignored, point when it comes to online dating profiles. Talk about your forté, strong points, and great things you can do. For example, if you are funny, tell a joke. If you can cook, write about it. Or better yet, have a friend take a photo of you cooking a dish. Remember, you are completing with thousands of other people. If you don't stand out, how can Mr. or Ms. Right find you? A side note on the profile picture: Have a great headshot taken, either by a friend or a photographer. No heavy makeup or retouching. Just a great picture that shows your best features. Take a look at the pictures below. They were taken for the same person. The one on the left was with his own webcam and the one on the right was by a professional photographer. Which one do you think is more attractive?
Your Profile
Screening
Effective screening makes online dating safer and more time-efficient. Use profiles, IM, email, phone and other communication tools to screen those responded to your profile.
Always read profiles, especially "about me" and "about my match", before you contact or respond to someone. You can learn many things from a profile. For example, if someone posts tons of party pictures, chances are this person parties a lot. If someone just writes that he's looking for a girl for fun, it's very likely that he's not looking for anything serious. This is not saying that you should make judgments just based on some pictures and text. The point is,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you can read a lot from what they posted or didn't post. And that should become your first round of screening.
Phone conversations are always necessary. If you don't feel connected to someone on the phone, chanced are you are not going to find him or her attractive when you two meet. Email and IM can be a bit harder to use as a screening tool, but you can still use them to weed out some players who beat around the bush and never get to the point.
Consider how much benefit of the doubt you want to give other people. When you just start dating online, you might be eager to scrutiniz
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